As a natural pessimistic person I find the art of being positive quite difficult. Throughout my life, I’ve always been told not to think so negatively and have a little faith. I’m a realist who doesn’t like the truth to be sugar-coated – no matter how painful. Yet, I noticed if any of my loved ones needed a pep-talk or were feeling down about something – I wouldn’t allow them to follow in my wallowing footsteps; so I could be positive towards others, why was I not being positive to myself?

This fanatical negative rabbit hole I’d found myself in caused those worries to surface, the grey matter in the brain to diminish and the need for constant sugary tea. What’s more, it was and still is exhausting. Like a lot of people, I found it easier to think of everything in its worst situation to protect myself from the truth, meanwhile I was completely unaware that this catastrophic thinking was ruining my mind (literally), giving me panic attacks and making me miserable.

So finally, I gave in and began to change my mind-set. Around 18 months later and a significant reduction in my caffeine intake, I began to feel the benefits of thinking positively.

With the influence from a few good friends, I saw situations in a different light – even feeling frustrated when others were/are being negative. My trick was to start small and to look at situations where negative thoughts arose (usually every 15 minutes) in a more positive manner.
Here are three ways that I started overcoming the negative thoughts that arose on a daily basis:

Be kind whether its flashing a smile at someone, or calling up a friend just to see how they are. Kindness is infectious and its healing.

Look at the goodin every situation- no matter how dismal, how upsetting or how heart-breaking. Embrace your blessings and know that bad times will pass.

Look for the goodin people, even if they are the most insufferable in the world, you were brought up better than to allow yourself to be dragged down by people that spoil your happiness. Be brave and have courage.

This world can be a lonely place, but the universe has a plan for everyone.

Happy soul-searching,

Priya